Mary L. Upton, 73, Dexter

DEXTER, NY —  Mary L. Upton, 73, Dexter, passed away peacefully on Aug. 17, 2021, at home surrounded by her loving family.

She was born in Washington, DC, daughter of the late Withers and Helen Ponton.

Mary was a devoted and loving wife, mother and grandmother while working for the federal government.

She is survived by her husband, William “Tom” Upton, three sons, Thomas Upton and his companion, Kathy Eggleson, John (Charlene) Upton, Michael (Carolyn) Upton; two granddaughters, Haley Upton, Megan Upton; two grandsons, Mitchell Upton and Brody Upton, a sister and brother-in-law, Barbara (Donald) Scott; two nephews, Mark (Santa) Scott and their son, Domenic, Jeffrey (Melanie) Scott, and a beloved fur baby, Benji.

Mary met Tom in July of 1968 where he was stationed with the Army at Arlington Hall Station, Virginia.  Their relationship was interrupted by the Army transferring Tom to Vietnam.  The long distance relationship flourished and they were married after his return in February 1970.

Mary initially worked for the United States Department of State in Washington, DC.  She continued working in numerous other federal government positions while Tom pursued a career in the United States Army.  Mary retired from the federal government in January of 2004, as the Patient Representative at Guthrie Medical Clinic on Fort Drum.

Arrangements are with the Johnson Funeral Home. Funeral services will be private. Mary will be interred at Arlington National Cemetery to wait for her beloved husband to join her in eternal peace.

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